Patricia Terry - Counselling for Individuals and Couples in central Esher, Surrey KT10
Welcome to my website.
If you are reading this page then you probably have a problem or issue that is troubling you sufficiently to look for help. I hope that my website provides you with some answers to your concerns, but if you need more information then please call or email me.
I offer counselling for individuals and couples in central Esher, Surrey KT10. Esher lies between Surbiton and Cobham and is close to Hersham, Walton on Thames, Claygate, Hinchley Wood and Oxshott. Esher is situated on the A307 (accessible from the A244, A309 and A3) and is easily reached from East Molesey and West Molesey, Thames Ditton and Long Ditton, Kingston upon Thames and Weybridge.
I have been a Counsellor and Psychotherapist for twenty years. During this time I've worked with many individuals and couples who have faced problems that seemed too overwhelming for them to deal with alone.
My clients come from a wide variety of backgrounds, cultures and faiths. They see me as individuals, or with their partners. They might be in a relationship or not, straight or gay, men or women, young or elderly. The one thing they have in common is the need to talk to someone other than their family or friends about their concerns. They therefore seek a counsellor who can provide independence and objectivity, and feel they can trust that my years of experience and advanced qualifications will enable me to help them.
Over the last twenty years I have dealt with a wide range of problems, including:
- Relationship issues, such as poor communication, anger, family conflict, couple separation and moving forward into a new relationship
- Abuse: emotional, physical and sexual
- Bereavement and the loss of someone close
- Life-changing events: marriage, divorce, children leaving home, serious illnesses and accidents
- Personal development issues such as low self-esteem or poor self-image, missed opportunities and regrets
- Work-related difficulties, such as redundancy and career change
- Anxiety and stress, including difficulties in dealing with change
- Loss of direction and meaning, whether due to a life-changing experience or a period of reflection
My work often involves support for a problem situation, crisis or frustration that is not being handled well, such as coping with change or dealing with missed opportunities and regrets. This can happen when someone is faced with a life-changing event such as bereavement, or simply the loss of someone close. Work-related difficulties, such as overwork, redundancy and relocation, all place additional anxiety and stress on people. Counselling can help people decide how to deal with these events, and can also support them through the process of building a fuller life and restoring their confidence.
Relationship and couple counselling
I have a special interest in working with individuals and couples, heterosexual or same sex, on relationship issues. There may be long-term problems that have eroded the relationship over time, or a partner is having an affair or wants to end the relationship. There may simply be a realisation that the relationship is no longer satisfying. If so, you could be on the point of thinking about separation or divorce but not quite sure whether this is the right move for you or your partner. Inevitably some relationships do end and the resulting change can often lead to a period of distress and anxiety, or a time for reflection before moving forward.
I am happy to see you by yourself or as a couple. If your relationship has ended you may want to use counselling to provide a framework for your thoughts or to help you move forward. Counselling is a confidential process and its privacy can offer you an opportunity to examine aspects of your life that are unsatisfactory or upsetting. It can offer you an opportunity to identify underlying issues or problems, thereby enabling you to decide what aspects of your life you want to change.
The search for love
I have conducted in-depth research on the topic of serial monogamy: the continuing search for love that results in a series of unfulfilling relationships. Unpacking the layers of expectation, hope and disappointment can be challenging, but the information gained during counselling could provide you with the insight to make choices about how you live in the future.
Where it is relevant I integrate mindfulness and coaching techniques into my work as a counsellor: this can form part of the process of moving forward following our time together. I work on the basis that people want to develop their own way of managing the complexities they face as they progress through life. My aim is to support that progression, and where it can be useful we will explore the use of techniques that might help you deal with problems differently in the future.
Contact me by phone 07543 213 540 or email
The impact of divorce on children
It's a few months since I last updated my blog and since then I have received a number of requests for information about the impact of divorce on children. There is no easy answer to how children will be affected when parents decide to separate or divorce, however, you might be interested to listen to the views of Professor Tamara D. Afifi as she looks at how parents can help their children adjust, in a positive way, to the separation and post-divorce family life.
Counselling for Individuals and Couples in central Esher, Surrey KT10
Esher, on the A307 between Surbiton and Cobham (accessible from the A244, A309 and A3), is close to Hersham, Walton on Thames, Claygate, Hinchley Wood and Oxshott, and is easily reached from East Molesey and West Molesey, Thames Ditton and Long Ditton, Kingston upon Thames and Weybridge.